I wish someone had given me The Knot Bridesmaid Handbook; Help the Bride Shine without Losing Your Mind when my sister asked me to be her maid of honor. I had no idea what a maid of honor was supposed to do and neither did my sister; the shower, bachelorette party and wedding went off without a hitch, but this handbook would have saved a lot of stress.
This indispensable book, written by the folks behind TheKnot.com, the go-to source for wedding info, was created for women who want to give the bride her dream wedding without harboring fantasies of sabotaging her walk down the aisle by the time the Big Day arrives.
Step One: be nice to your fellow bridesmaids. Below is just a taste of some of the entertaining yet helpful tips this must-have handbook offers.
10 Things Never to Say to the Other Bridesmaids
- “Oh, I didn’t realize you’d be one of the bridesmaids. I know [insert bride’s name] was having such a difficult time choosing whom to include.”
- “[Insert bride’s name] told me she’d help me pay for the dress if I keep it on the DL. But you should ask her, too – what have you got to lose?”
- “I hate weddings.”
- “Wow, I didn’t know you knew how to do that ceremonial dance. Would you mind performing it at my wedding, too?”
- “What kind of dress silhouette do you usually wear? We have such different figures – it will be hard to find one style that works on everyone.”
- “It’s nice that every though you guys have grown apart, you’re still willing to be a bridesmaid.”
- “If you lose like five or ten pounds, this dress will look amazing on you.”
- “[Insert bride’s name]’s fiancé is hot – we dated for a brief period of time before they met.”
- “Since I’m flying to the wedding from out of state, I have to pay the long-distance travel on top of everything else. Do you think you could pitch in extra for some of our shared bridesmaid costs?”
- “Why is she getting married before me?”