Everything is going well. Your boss said hi to you this morning for the first time in two weeks, you are feeling pretty productive today; you’re all caught up on your emails, then BAM! Seemingly out of nowhere, you fall into frustration, are ready to chuck your computer through the window and quit. Welcome to work stress, brought on by sneaky fear-based habits that turn into self-sabotage.
I know exactly what it’s like to have fear run the show at work. I spent a decade working in corporate, feeling uncertain, insecure, frustrated, and stressed out. It wasn’t until I looked at my daily habits and learned that a large portion of my stress was a result of my self-sabotaging habits. Most of us are on autopilot for the majority of the day.
It’s been estimated that 40% of our behavior each day is automatic. We repeat habits, as they are the invisible details of our lives. Looking at your habits and asking if they serve you will help you remove self-sabotage and step into joy.
The best way to clear your fear in your career is to become more self-aware. This will help you be more productive, reconnect with your passion, and fall in love with your life.
When you identify certain habits, you can transform them with love and compassion. Here are the top three self-sabotaging habits that affect us in the workplace, and how to fix them.
1. We cheat on our future with our past. Many of us have failures or successes from our past that we will replay in our minds. Maybe your boss told you “you need to try harder”, or your last review was bad, and you spend most of your time thinking about what went wrong. By focusing on the past instead of the present, we are held back from our future. This is a self-sabotaging habit I call cheating on your future with your past. Ultimately, it prevents us from being present and focusing on a successful future. To break up with this habit, look at your past situations and ask yourself what you can learn from them. By studying the blessing in the lesson, you will break free from past situations.
2. We focus on what we don’t want. It can be easy to fall into water cooler chitchat and complaints. But when we spend time talking about what we don’t like, it prevents us from getting what we do want. For the next seven days, catch yourself anytime you talk or think about what you don’t like or want, and instead turn that fear-based thought into a loving inner voice and focus on your goals. You can start that new project or brainstorm the next office activity—this productivity will help empower you and keep you in a joy-filled state.
3. We resist change. Change is inevitable. New projects, co-workers, clients, and bosses make the work environment an ever-changing landscape. If change is uncomfortable for you, it can be a rocky road. Many of us resist change because we are afraid of the outcome. To combat this fear fear-based habit, illustrate your illusion. Focus on the outcome you want, and this will gracefully glide you through any tough transition.
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