When adult friendships end, there’s usually a deep ache that comes with self-knowledge. We know ourselves better, we understand the world better, and we know we’re probably not going to make up over Snapchat that same night.
In June of last year, my husband and I packed up our lives and moved from New York City to Colorado—almost 2,000 miles away from nearly all of our family and friends. Consequently, this is the first Mother’s Day I’ll be spending from my mom. It got me thinking about the emotional challenges the holiday presents—not just for those of us who live far away from our mothers, but for those who have lost their moms or have strained/non-existent relationships with them.
Maybe you know better than anyone how to read your bestie's expressions - from "first-bite-of-ice-cream bliss" to "a wrath of fury about to be unleashed." Maybe your BFF has lifted you out of a sad time, forcing you to go outside to see "that the world was still there ... I was still me. And we were still us."
When compared to other adventure sports like rock climbing or hang gliding, sailing is considered relatively safe. Yet sailing isn’t foolproof, nor are the dangers non-existent. On a warm and cloudless day, a group of coworkers went off together on what they thought was going to be a relaxed, recreational sailing excursion. But when a […]
I was finding it really hard to be grateful for just about anything. I’d been married just six months when my doctors gave me a terrifying health diagnosis. They informed me I had the same gene that caused my dad’s muscular dystrophy, a disease that crippled him in his forties and led to his death in his early sixties.
The typical picture of a Valentine’s Day evening probably includes red roses, chocolates, perhaps a giant teddy bear, and a candlelight dinner at a fancy restaurant that is trying their hardest to accommodate the one night swell of customers. But if you’re not one those people that prefer the overrated/overpriced dinner scene and obligatory one dozen roses, here are a few fun and not-so-predictable options for an equally romantic, and hopefully even more fun way of spending this occasion with the one you love most.
Sadly, scores of people feel like they’re alone even though they’re technically not. They deeply love someone who is emotionally unavailable. Emotional unavailability comes in various forms, including partners who are aloof, unresponsive, withdrawn, seemingly indifferent, or close-mouthed about their feelings and perspectives. In a relationship like this, it’s hard not to feel alone.
One of the main problems with poor conversationalists is that they don’t volley back to the person to whom they’re talking. Sharing about yourself when asked is entirely appropriate, but detailing your own biography over a cocktail hour is not only rude and unbecoming, but also quite boring. Here are three ways to make sure you’re inciting good, upbeat conversation that keeps the other person feeling important and interested as well.
Most of us love sharing our lives on social media. We post a lovely photo, share a funny video, and watch the views, likes, and comments roll in. But let’s be totally honest with ourselves—it’s rare that we would ever choose to post something that is unflattering. When we go out, take a vacation, or celebrate an accomplishment, we share only the most photo opportunistic moments. Our online presence is the controlled, filtered, shiny version of everyday life.
The people who trigger us most are actually gifts; gifts that teach us about where we are still wounded. They can trigger us easily because we have wounds—neuro-associations—from a past pain, something we haven’t healed and something we never want to feel again. But if we don’t feel it, we can’t heal it.