There’s really no better endorsement for the book Making Marriage Simple than the authors themselves. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., are renowned marriage counselors and founders of the Institute for Imago Relationships International. But about 10 years ago, they realized their marriage was actually a mess. They were arguing and stubborn and angry all the time. It was time to practice the methods they’d used to help thousands of other couples heal their marriages. After working through the exercises together, they experienced a huge shift. “For the first time in a long time, we found that we actually enjoyed being together,” they write in the book.
These exercises are now available in a slim, easy-to-read manual organized around 10 simple principles, like incompatibility is actually good for a marriage, and conflict doesn’t mean your marriage is bad—it’s growth trying to happen. (Keep that in mind the next time you fight with your partner about whose turn it is to clean the litter box.) Don’t get me wrong, there is work involved.
You have to learn a new method of communicating and uncover feelings that you might be trying to ignore, but 10 to 20 minutes a day is all it really takes. The payoff may add many happy years to your marriage and more joy to your life.