There might be some truth to the saying, “Money is the root of all evil.” For many of us, our egos are directly tied to our bank accounts. We feel worthy and happy when we have money, and then we strive for even more money and material things when our “happiness” begins to wane. Does this cycle sound familiar to you?
Thankfully, it costs us nothing to shift our perspective and relationship with money from seeing it as a status symbol to seeing it for what it is — something used in exchange for goods or services. The real awakening comes when we stop striving for more and start becoming more grateful for what we do have. For some of us, it takes hitting financial rock bottom before we open ourselves up to receiving guidance or have a willingness to break and make new habits.
According to Gabrielle Bernstein in her book, May Cause Miracles, “Once you awaken your internal abundance, your external abundance will be reflected.” To awaken your internal abundance, start reflecting on your relationship with money. Why do you think about money the way that you do? Better yet, what are you afraid of when it comes to your life and your bank account? Be conscious of the fact when you feel a tinge of fear with money. For example, do you feel anxious when purchasing your morning coffee or before checking your bank statement (if you check it at all)? “Just let your subconscious write through you and lead you to uncover the thoughts and energy that are blocking your abundance,” says Bernstein.
With the new year just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to break bad habits and start making real, tangible shifts in your relationship with money. Here are a few helpful tips to get you started:
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If you say it, you become it
If you always say, “I’m so broke,” then stop it! Continuing to think this way only strengthens that feeling of inadequacy causing you to chase something that’ll never make you happy. Come up with a mantra to stop you each time you think a negative thought about money, like, “I choose to believe I have abundance and to appreciate what I have.” The keyword in this mantra is “choose,” which gives you a sense of control.
Gratitude changes attitudes
Another change in language is using the words, “grateful” and “bless.” While, yes, those are the same words you probably see sewed onto your aunt’s throw pillows, they are also words that you should use yourself. Make a list of everything you’re grateful for, and then bless the abundance. For example, “I am grateful for my car. I bless this abundance in my life and infuse love with it each time it safely takes me and others to and from.” You’ll soon realize that you’re actually overflowing in possessions, and you’ll stop comparing your life to others. As Bernstein says, “Gratitude leads you to honor what you do have and appreciate the simple stuff.”
Forgiveness will set you free
Lastly, to live out a new, more free relationship with money, you’ll need to do some forgiving. Forgive yourself and anyone else who you feel resentment towards when it comes to finances. “This practice will set you free, clear your conscience, and restore your financial perceptions back to love.”
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