“What would you do if you could not fail?” ask countless inspirational coffee mugs, throw pillows, and greeting cards. As we tend to think of success as inherently good and failure as inherently bad, it’s easy to understand why nobody wants to feel like a failure. If given a choice, the gut response for many […]
Why Date Yourself? Dating is an essential part of nearly all our relationships—it’s how we get to know potential romantic partners, nurture existing long-term relationships and friendships, and even for many parents, a way to spend quality one-on-one time with their kids. Though we nurture many relationships in our lives, there’s one we tend to […]
How are you? Busy? Unfortunately, the phrase “I’m so busy” has become a mantra for the modern age. We seem to have bought into the idea that we need to fill our days and our homes until our heads and closets are ready to explode. We speak of a simpler life with fewer distractions and […]
Imagine this: You wake up one morning, do a little yoga, sip hot lemon water, read your book, arrange some cut flowers, play with your cat, walk your dog in the park, enjoy a hot shower, get dressed, and drive to work. On your commute, another car cuts in front of you, nearly causing an […]
I remember the first—and only—time I saw my father cry: I was sixteen and in the backseat of my parents’ car, driving to my paternal grandfather’s funeral. I had awoken to my mother quietly reading the poem I had written for the service, and it was my words that had made him cry. That brief […]
When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, people either love them or hate them. I love them—even if I’m not always successful at keeping them. However, I do find consistent success in keeping resolutions that are realistic, specific, and progress-oriented. I’ve even managed to read upwards of 50 books every year for the last five […]
Self-criticism used to be a part of my everyday existence. I constantly scrutinized and over analyzed every choice and every action I made. For more than three decades, I didn’t just dislike myself—I actively went out of my way to sabotage myself.
What is the secret to success? This question has been asked endlessly throughout history. How did Thomas A. Edison or Andrew Carnegie do it? How did Henry Ford, who came from nothing, build an empire that still stands today?
Life brings with it inevitable challenges, yet today it can seem as if those challenges are being presented to us at an increasing rate. How many of us are familiar with feeling overwhelmed physically or mentally, or have the sense that the changes we want for ourselves, our family and our society appear to be out of reach? Challenging conversations and uncomfortable feelings seem to greet us daily with little time to gather our thoughts before responding from a place that can sadly be driven by anxiety or defensiveness.
One of the most difficult times to attempt trusting in goodness is during, or immediately after, a tragedy when our thoughts and emotions wrestle with the apparent absence of any goodness at all. Might we be able to walk through our challenges with more courage if we had a deep-seated conviction that goodness is available, despite our difficulties? Possibly. But, trusting in the presence of goodness takes practice, as it does any new skill. When done regularly, it can develop into a lifelong habit.