Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg is a big-ideas manifesto for women. It shows us how and why women hold fewer leadership positions than men, and it urges women to “lean in” to their careers so that we can close what she calls the â€śleadership ambition gap.â€ť But beyond these big ideas, itâ€™s also filled straightforward tips that women can employ in their working life immediately. Here are three of those practical tips that will help you start leaning in right now:
1. Fake it ’til you feel it: If youâ€™re not feeling confident at work, try the â€śfake it till you feel itâ€ť strategy. Sandberg writes: â€śOne study found that when people assumed a high-power pose (for example, taking up space by spreading their limbs) for just two minutes, their dominance hormone levels (testosterone) went up and their stress hormone levels (cortisol) went down. As a result, they felt more powerful and in charge and showed a greater tolerance for risk. A simple change in posture led to a significant change in attitude.â€ť
So the next time you have to give a presentation and feel anxious, embody the confidence you wish you felt, and youâ€™ll probably start to believe in yourself a lot more (and it will show in your presentation).
2. Sit at the table, literally! A few years ago, Sandberg hosted a meeting at Facebook for Silicon Valley executives and Treasury Secretary Tim Geithner to discuss the economy. Secretary Geithnerâ€™s team was comprised of four women, and when the meeting began, all four women sat on the side of the room, rather than at the table. Sandberg writes, â€śIt was a watershed moment for me. A moment when I witnessed how an internal barrier can alter womenâ€™s behavior.â€ť
The next time youâ€™re invited to a meeting, even if itâ€™s filled with high-power executives, sit at the table! Youâ€™ll be showing everyone that youâ€™re confident in your ideas and that youâ€™re serious about your career.
3. Done is better than perfect: Sandberg tells us that a poster hanging at Facebook’s headquarters declares in big, red letters, â€śDone is better than perfect.â€ť She writes, â€śI have tried to embrace this motto and let go of unattainable standards. Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst.â€ť
I think this is one of the best and most surprising lessons from Lean In, and itâ€™s something anyone can employ in his or her career right now. How often do you turn over a task in your mind for days, wondering how you can possibly get it done perfectly? Itâ€™s a wise lesson to us all to stop aiming for perfection and instead aim to simply get the task done. And if youâ€™re working at your highest potential, done probably means you did an excellent job at the task anyway.
Learn more about Lean In at leanin.org.