We all have that one pair of jeans. They sit at the bottom of the drawer, under all the other jeans that circulate through your weekly wear. They’re likely 2-3 sizes smaller than your current size, and they were at one time your favorite, most-flattering, maybe even lucky jeans. I know, because I have them too. They’re slim, they used to hug my hips literally in the most perfectly tailored way, and I wore them in my engagement photos. After having my first child, I held onto them as a reminder of where I used to be, and with every diet I begin, I envision myself wearing them again.
It’s time to throw them away. Not because I’ve given up, but because the reality is, I will never again fit into those jeans the way I used to. Where I’ve been since twenty-three has been quite the journey. I’ve lost and gained weight, gotten engaged, married, gotten pregnant, had a child, lost weight again and changed careers. At thirty years old I am further along in my career, more self-assured and less likely to tolerate any mistreatment from others, so why would I self-inflict an unrealistic physical standard that holds no real meaning? Those jeans may represent fond memories of things I had done or where I once was in my life, but they aren’t a standard to uphold by any means. Our bodies go through adjustments and changes the same way our lives move forward, through challenges, in and out phases and milestones. It’s unrealistic to think that who we were in our twenties is the same person we are now, and the same applies when we refer to our physical size and shape. As human beings, we grow into adulthood and whether we want to come to this realization or not, the size we used to be doesn’t positively or negatively define who we are, or what size we are now.
This business about my coveted lucky jeans stemmed from reading The Dukan Diet and The Dukan Diet Made Easy and a visit to the website to calculate my True Weight. It takes your height, weight, birth date, wrist circumference, your weight history and whether or not you’ve had kids into consideration, and it tells you the weight that you naturally should be based on those characteristics and life experiences. Then it lays out a detailed timeline telling you how following certain steps as found in the Dukan Diet plan, will lead to your personal weight loss goal – right down to a projected success date. This was a plan that placed everything into a reality, to a tangible idea that seemed logical and doable and made me think twice about using jeans as a guideline. I will never be the weight I was at twenty, but my True Weight takes everything I have done over the years into consideration, and in turn provides a number that isn’t unattainable, but is completely tangible with the right plan — leaving the past where it belongs and the future looking entirely possible.
Illustration: Marie Guillard